We are a married couple looking for donor. We will be doing home insemination.
We are a married couple looking for donor. We will be doing home insemination.
My wife and I are ready to have a child of our own, but since we are both women we will need a sperm donor lol. Preferably Caucasian. We DO NOT want to do this “the old fashioned way,” but it will be an in home insemination.
My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We both have stable jobs, a place to live, funds to provide for a child, and a stable relationship. We are loving and caring people. We have wanted a child for some time now. This has been a stressful journey for us. We would like to find a donor who doesn’t want any part in any resulting child’s life and who wouldn’t mind being tested for stds before donation. We will pay for you to be tested and also pay you gas money. This will be strictly for at-home insemination and there will be no sexual acts performed between us and any donor.
We are just hoping there is someone out there who is kind enough to help us…
Also, we live in Savannah, Ga.
Please email me. Thanks!
Co-ParentMatch.com Profile ID: Christa6
Single heterosexual woman
Looking to Find a sperm donor
Location: Tampa, Florida, United States
Other Info: Single, hetero female looking for sperm donation for artificial home insemination. I currently have one child and would like another to add to our happy family. Caucasian with dark hair and light eyes preferred. Italian or Spanish heritage. Donor will not have any parental or financial responsibility to the child. Will need to meet at least twice a month for donation collection in Tampa, FL.
Sitting in her hospital bed and cradling her newborn daughter in her arms, Helen Hudson wept with joy. After years of yearning for a baby, she couldn’t believe she was finally a mum.
All Helen, now 30, had ever wanted in life was a baby.
But by her mid-20s, she was terrified her time for conceiving was running out.
She had Polycystic Ovary Syndrome – and had been single for years.
But rather than giving up on her dreams, she went down an unusual route. She decided to use a friend as a sperm donor, promising him she’d raise their child on her own.
He wouldn’t have to pay maintenance to her or share any responsibility for the baby.
All she wanted was his sperm. “My decision left friends and family stunned,” says Helen, from Sheffield. “But I’d done a lot of soul searching before I went ahead and it was the only solution I was happy with. Having a child was the most important thing in the world to me and I was prepared to go to whatever lengths it took.”
She admits that she would rather have had a family conventionally.
But when Mr Right didn’t come along and she was diagnosed with a severe form of Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, which affects fertility, she knew that drastic steps were needed if she was to become a mum.
Helen’s condition had a huge impact on her mood and appetite and even caused insomnia and excessive hair growth.
There was no pattern to her ovulation. Even when she did ovulate, she didn’t always produce an egg.
When tests revealed that her ovaries were swamped with cysts, doctors put her on several types of medication. She also started a strict diet to try to control the condition.
But the severity of Helen’s case meant that her life was dominated by her condition.
“I was warned that my periods, which could last two weeks, would only get worse with age,” she says.
By the age of 27, Helen, who manages a Sure Start children’s centre, had started to panic that time was running out.
“I wasn’t in a relationship but I really wanted to become a mum,” she says. “I thought long and hard about my options – adoption, IVF or even fostering. But none felt right.”
Helen eventually hit upon an idea – she would find a sperm donor. She considered paying to use a clinic. But when she mentioned the idea to a close male friend, he made a surprising suggestion.
“He offered to help me himself,” she says. “He’d seen me struggle and knew how much it meant.
“I had to make sure that he knew what he was letting himself in for,” she says.
After thinking it through, her friend insisted that he still wanted to help. Helen was delighted but, as their relationship was strictly platonic, she didn’t want to conceive their baby in the usual way. Helen’s specialist supported her and gave her fertility-boosting medication to improve her chances.
It was decided that every month, just at the right time, Helen’s friend would provide a small tub of sperm. She would then attempt to inseminate herself at home.
“It seemed very clinical and not how I’d imagined trying for a baby,” she admits. “But I had to just think about the end result.” The process wasn’t straight forward.
After six attempts, she became pregnant but miscarried just days later. Her doctor examined her and explained she was predisposed to early miscarriages. Over the next 18 months, Helen had four more miscarriages and at times, felt like giving up.
“Each time I lost a baby, it hurt more,” she recalls. “It felt as though I was never destined to become a mum.”
If she didn’t conceive using her friend’s sperm, she planned to use IVF on the NHS.
But in March 2010, she was pregnant again.
“Initially I didn’t get excited but a few days passed, then a week and I hadn’t haemorrhaged,” she says. “I called the donor and he was as stunned and delighted as I was, knowing how much it meant to me.”
Reality didn’t truly hit for Helen until a midwife confirmed that she was pregnant. “I was excited and nervous at the same time,” she says. “It was the best news in the world but I knew I was now in it alone.”
Helen’s pregnancy was plagued with complications. First she developed the chronic sickness syndrome, hyperemesis, which left her drained and barely able to eat. Then, four months in, her pelvis collapsed and she had to walk with crutches.
“When I was really low, there were times when I wished I’d got pregnant the conventional way so I wasn’t so alone,” she says. “I couldn’t rely on the donor for emotional support, he’d done so much already.”
Thankfully, her friends and family were there for her – once they’d adjusted to the idea.
“Initially my parents were shocked,” admits Helen. “They’re very traditional and were stunned by what I’d done. But they came round to the idea and promised to be there for me. I wanted my child to be part of a family.”
In fact, although Helen had expected a negative response from some friends, she says everyone she told was completely supportive.
During her pregnancy, she was never alone. A friend accompanied her to her 20-week scan, when she was told the sex of her baby.
“It was strange not having the father of my child with me when I discovered I was having a girl,” she reflects. “But that was the choice I had made.”
When she gave birth to Daisy last December, she had two friends as birthing partners.
“I didn’t feel sad that Daisy’s dad wasn’t around,” she says. “I was just so amazed that I had this beautiful little girl. I’d finally become a mum, which was all I’d ever wanted.”
Despite her joy, she struggled at first to adjust to her new life.
“It’s extremely difficult becoming a parent for the first time, especially as I don’t have a partner to share my worries and concerns with,” she says. “But all of my friends and family have been fantastic.”
Daisy is now four months old. Although Helen has introduced her to her biological father, she has no plans to involve him further.
“He’s finding it tougher than he thought to walk away from a child he’s fathered,” she says. “But if he wants to be a part of Daisy’s life in the future, we’ll discuss it and hopefully come to the right decision.”
After having Daisy and coming off her medication, Helen’s PCOS symptoms unfortunately returned.
Although she has no plans to attempt another pregnancy, she would consider adoption in order to give Daisy a brother or sister.
Despite her happiness, she can’t help worrying for the future.
“What I’ve done will have consequences for the rest of Daisy’s life. I’ve constantly questioned myself but my little girl has made every worry and concern worthwhile. When the time comes, I’ll explain to Daisy how I got pregnant. She’ll always know she was wanted.”
For now, Helen is content to fulfil the role she craved for so long.
“I will try my hardest to be a mum and a dad,” she says. “I hope that, when she’s old enough, she’ll understand why I did what I did.”
Source: Michelle Rawlins Daily Mirror 05.04.11
I am a self-employed single mum of 3 (youngest 2 via donor) i am looking for a new donor to complete my family,my last donor has decided not to donate as his personal circumstances have changed.i need the donor to travel to me.Am only interested in artificial insemination at home,my youngest 2 were conceived this way one insemination a month. Profile ID 131378