Open to co-parenting to raise a child in Orlando

I’m down-to-earth angle searching for her wings. I’m open to co-parenting to raise a child in a living, caring, warmth home. Kids bring such joy in people’s life. To have that bundle of joy and experience motherhood is what my heart desires. What a gift to be a mom.
EVIE20
SINGLE HETEROSEXUAL WOMAN
CO-PARENT
Age: 42
Location: Orlando, Florida, United States

Open to co-parenting in Niantic, Connecticut

Hello, i will update this more, later when i can think of something. but for now, i am here to help if i can. i love kids, and would really love to have one all to my own. i would like to find mrs right and have the traditional type of family. but for now i will help anyone that i can to make their dreams come true. i am open to coparenting.
a bit about me… i am @ 5’10.5″ blond hair blue eyes and O+(Io io +/-). i have work on my family tree for years so i have info on the family. i am retired military(more to this story later). i have 5 years of university. i am open to anyone and everyone….
GLENN14
SINGLE HETEROSEXUAL MAN
LOOKING TO BECOME A SPERM DONOR
Age: 46
Location: Niantic, Connecticut, United States

Sperm donor in Brooklyn, New York

Hello,

I am a 25 year old vibrant African American male. I am looking for a female that’s interested in co-parenting or a sperm donation. I have a bachelors degree and I’m close to finishing my masters. I can support a child or never make contact if that’s what you choose. We can work out the logistics upon contact.

DENONTE1
SINGLE HETEROSEXUAL MAN
LOOKING TO CO-PARENT OR BECOME A SPERM DONOR
Age: 25
Location: Brooklyn/New York, New York, United States

Single heterosexual woman Looking for a Co-parent in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada

Co-ParentMatch.com Profile ID: Sharon612
Single heterosexual woman
Looking for a Co-parent
Age: 40
Location: Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada

Other Info: I am a professional single woman. I used to be an engineer but now I changed into the arts – yes! very challenging to balance the right and left brain, but I am a very balanced person.

Romantically, the relationship I am looking for has not yet happened and I am entering my 40th year and am not quite ready to give up the opportunity of having a child. I feel that it is time in my life to give back, to give in the form of new life and observing the miracle of life unveil first hand thru the growth of a child.

Since I am a photographer, it takes me travelling so co-parenting is a must to sustain my career, I am looking for an active participant father to share the same values and vision. Although I am Jewish, I believe that raising a child on the fundamentals of Being Kind and the Golden Rule are sometimes all it takes. When there is mutual respect then each religion and tradition can be respected.

Thank you and Good Luck 🙂

Leading UK National newspaper would like to talk to Co-ParentMatch members

Would you like to share your co-parenting journey for a UK national newspaper article? You can do this anonymously if you wish.

Are you looking for a co-parent?

Have you found a co-parent?

Why would you choose a co-parenting arrangement over a sperm donor role?

Are you concerned about the legal aspects of conceiving with a known donor/co-parent?

Sharing your journey can raise awareness on co-parenting and  help others in the choices they make.

If you are interested please email us enquiries@co-parentmatch.com

Meet the co-parents: friends not lovers (Telegraph Newspaper Article)

Find sperm donors and co-parents at Co-ParentMatch.com

What’s it like to have a child with someone who’s a friend but not a lover? More and more people are doing just that, to satisfy their broodiness. Helen Croydon investigates

 

Seven years ago, when Sabrina Morgan, 33, was single and desperate for a child, she found herself chatting to Kam Wong, 41, a gay man who was longing to be a father, in an online fertility forum. ‘I instantly thought he was genuine, down-to-earth, laidback and flexible,’ says Sabrina.

‘We exchanged pictures. It wasn’t about sexual attraction, obviously, but it was important what he looked like. I asked him if he had any history of baldness and loose teeth. It was part humour but it was also my way to steer towards more serious questions, like does he have any genetic health conditions.’

For Kam, who is in a long-term relationship, contacting Sabrina was about more than being a sperm donor: ‘I adore children. The desire to have my own has always been with me. Because of my sexuality I thought it might never happen. The urge grew stronger in my thirties until one day I researched options. When I met Sabrina I was very nervous. This was my chance to fulfil my dreams.’

It took Sabrina six years to conceive through IVF. By then she had met Kirsty Slack, 37, who is now her romantic partner. Sabrina and Kirsty live together and are Zaide’s primary carers. Kam visits weekly, which will increase as Zaide gets older.

Kam and Sabrina are one of the growing number of couples in so-called ‘co-parenting’ relationships – biological parents who have a close but platonic relationship and both contribute to child-rearing . Co-parenting isn’t just for the gay community. Straight men and women are choosing to put romance aside in the name of reproduction.

Catherine, 41, met Steve, 39, on the website co-parentmatch.com. He is gay and she has been single for two years. He lives in London for his job as an analyst but will join Catherine in Swansea if and when he gets her pregnant, through artificial insemination (AI).

Source: Helen Croydon 31.07.11 The Telegraph

Read more: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/family/8659494/Meet-the-co-parents-friends-not-lovers.html

TV Show The Wright Stuff want to talk to Co-ParentMatch members

Find Sperm Donors & Co-Parents at Co-ParentMatch.com

The Wright Stuff are a daytime discussion show on channel 5 and on Thursday they are  discussing whether children really need parents who have been in a
relationship as a couple?

This is based on an article regarding co-parenting.

They take calls from viewers to set up two sides of the
argument. The are just trying to find people who’ve had experience of
co-parenting to come onto the show to discuss it. They will only be asked to be
on the phone and are welcome to keep their identity private.

If you would like to take part please email enquiries@co-parentmatch.com

Do you want to take part in a BBC documentary about modern family life?

“The BBC is hoping to make a documentary about modern family life in the UK. We’re keen to speak to any gay or lesbian couples or individuals who are parenting or co-parenting at the moment, or who are trying for a baby. We’re very aware this is a sensitive subject for a lot of families, and I’m keen to speak to as many people as possible to find out what their experiences have been.”

For more information please email enquiries@co-parentmatch.com

 

 

Is co-parenting the new way to start a family in 2011? BBC Television & a Sunday newspaper want your story!

Can you share your co-parenting journey?

Two Separate BBC Television Projects

BBC Project One

The BBC is developing an idea for a TV documentary about co-parenting and the modern family in the UK in 2011. The BBC are really keen to speak to LGBT parents who have children or who are trying to have a child, to find out about their experiences of family life and the challengs they face. No committment at this stage, it would just be an initial chat!

BBC Project Two

Award Winning Production Company is seeking Co-Parents. We are making a documentary for a major UK channel about co-parenting. We are looking to speak with families who have been through the experience and those embarking on this exciting journey for the first time. In particular we are looking for unusual co-parents who reflect modern family in Britain today. All correspondance will be dealt with sensitively and in confidence.

Sunday Newspaper Project

Do you have a co-parenting success-story – i.e. a couple who found each other through a co-parenting website like Co-ParentMatch.com and now have a child and raise their child as platonic partners.

University Photography Project on Modern Families through Co-Parenting

Can you help a university student complete her Photo Journalism course? If you are a gay or lesbian parent and would like to contribute towards an interesting project detailing a photographic reflection on modern families then please get in touch.

For all of the above projects please email enquiries@co-parentmatch.com

Legal Hoops for Gay Parents

New York Times reports:

MOST pregnant women avoid long road trips right before their due date. But Amanda and Kay Shelton, a lesbian couple in Beverly Hills, Mich., contemplated traveling more than 600 miles to New Jersey so Amanda could give birth in a state where their baby could have two “legal” mothers.

Michigan, along with several others, doesn’t allow same-sex couples to perform second-parent adoptions, which allow one partner to adopt the other’s biological or adopted children. They never did make the long trip, which would have allowed Kay to begin adoption proceedings immediately. “It was not terribly practical, so we were kind of in a difficult spot,” said Amanda, 34.

The inability to adopt is one of many legal and financial inequalities the Sheltons face because their state and the federal government do not recognize their union, which they affirmed in a ceremony almost 11 years ago.

Though Kay, 37, is known as “mama” to their children — Maya is 3, Myles, 8 months — the state government still views her as a legal stranger. So Amanda, who works as acommercial litigator for a law firm in Detroit, must sign a notarized document every six months that gives Kay, who stays home with the children, parental consent. But they have often wondered if there was more they could do to strengthen those legal ties, or to improve their financial situation. So we asked three experts in same-sex issues — a lawyer, a financial planner and an accountant — for advice.

LEGAL DOCUMENTS The Sheltons say their top priority is their children. If Amanda were unable to care for them, Kay said, “I would not want them missing from me, even for a day.”

Michigan recognizes second-parent adoptions performed elsewhere, but that would require establishing residency in a state where Kay could adopt. That can take more than a year.

Several documents are available to create as many rights as possible for the couple, according to Mary Kator, chief counsel at the Rainbow Law Center, a firm in Southfield, Mich. Without the documents, Kay, a former auto mechanic, is vulnerable — especially if the couple ever splits up.

Instead of relying on the renewable parental authority document, she suggested a “power of attorney for parental authority,” which does not expire. It would allow Kay to act on the children’s behalf, whether it was for a trip to the doctor’s office or a visit with a teacher. “It has never been challenged and as a practical matter, it works,” Ms. Kator said.

Ms. Kator also suggested a parental appointment of guardian, which would designate Kay as the children’s guardian in the event that Amanda died or became incapacitated, giving Kay priority over any blood relatives.

They also need to update their wills: Amanda should appoint Kay as the children’s guardian, but the documents should also express that Kay be treated as a co-parent.

“Even the ring your partner has given you will belong to your birth family upon your death,” said Ms. Kator of same-sex couples in Michigan who die without a will.

Since many of the couple’s assets would pass to one of them directly because they are either jointly held, like their home and savings accounts, or, in the case of Amanda’sretirement accounts, have Kay listed as the beneficiary, Ms. Kator did not think it was necessary to use a revocable living trust.

The trust is often recommended for couples with substantial assets that may be subject to probate, the process to settle a deceased person’s estate. Assets held in the trust bypass that process. The couple do need to make sure their beneficiary designations are kept up to date.

The Sheltons already have medical powers of attorney that allow them to make medical decisions for each other. Ms. Kator suggested making them broader and more explicit, giving each partner broad visiting rights and authorizing a health provider to give them medical information. The couple already have a durable power of attorney that would allow them to handle legal and financial matters for each other.

Finally, they should set up a domestic partner agreement and a co-parenting agreement that outlines how to handle child support and parenting should the couple ever split. This is especially important for Kay, since she is not a legal parent and has no wage-earning job. “In our community, because we don’t have divorce courts we don’t have the ability to address this economic inequality, and a domestic partner agreement can substitute for that,” Ms. Kator said.

FINANCIAL CONCERNS Since Kay isn’t earning any money, she cannot use any tax-advantaged savings vehicles for retirement — these require earned income. And Amanda can’t contribute to a spousal I.R.A. on her behalf, since they cannot marry.

Kay isn’t entitled to receive Social Security benefits on Amanda’s earnings record, either. Normally, lower-earning spouses can receive up to half of their spouse’s benefits, if those are higher than their own. Surviving spouses are also entitled to collect their husband or wife’s higher benefits instead of their own. “I know I need to be saving more for her, but I’m not,” said Amanda, who puts about $6,000 a year in her 401(k). It would be difficult, if not impossible, to divide that up should they split. Married people who divorce can divide retirement plan assets without having to pay taxes or penalties on withdrawals, but the Sheltons wouldn’t have those privileges, said James Tissot, president of Prism Planning in New York.

“The biggest issue as you go forward is the disparity between the two retirement plans and coming up with something that is equitable,” he told the couple. That agreement should be included in a domestic partner agreement.

After paying down certain debts, he suggested that Amanda at least double her savings.

TAXES If the Sheltons could file their federal returns jointly, they would save several thousand dollars in taxes. Instead, Amanda files her federal tax return as “head of household,” and claims the children and Kay as dependents. Tax rates are higher for people who file as head of household compared with couples who file jointly, so they end up paying at least $3,000 more, according to Tina Salandra, an accountant and president of Numerical L.L.C.

But they could do something that would help Kay save for retirement: Amanda could hire Kay as a nanny and pay her $3,649 a year, which she could then put into a Roth I.R.A. (Kay needs to earn less than $3,650 for Amanda to continue to claim her as a dependent, Ms. Salandra said.) Kay and Amanda would both owe Social Security and Medicare taxes, and Amanda would need to pay state unemployment taxes. That’s roughly $644 in total, but Amanda could deduct her share of the payroll taxes as itemized deductions on her return. After reviewing the advice, the Sheltons said their first priority would be to put the extra parental protections into place, then update their will.

The couple said they were optimistic that, someday, their family would be able to avoid all of these extra costs and hurdles. “I would love to have another wedding because I loveweddings,” Amanda said, laughing.  “And I would love to have our kids there and to be part of that. I am hopeful.”

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/03/24/your-money/24financial-and-legal-issues-facing-gay-parents.html