why is it sperm donors are not wanted after the age of 40 or older?

i like many other have great genes; i have been told all my life i dont look my age. my parents both had good genes/beautiful skin/ etc. my father never took any meds until his last two yrs of his life and passed at the age of 84; his parents lived into their 90’s

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Meet the co-parents: friends not lovers (Telegraph Newspaper Article)

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What’s it like to have a child with someone who’s a friend but not a lover? More and more people are doing just that, to satisfy their broodiness. Helen Croydon investigates


Seven years ago, when Sabrina Morgan, 33, was single and desperate for a child, she found herself chatting to Kam Wong, 41, a gay man who was longing to be a father, in an online fertility forum. ‘I instantly thought he was genuine, down-to-earth, laidback and flexible,’ says Sabrina.

‘We exchanged pictures. It wasn’t about sexual attraction, obviously, but it was important what he looked like. I asked him if he had any history of baldness and loose teeth. It was part humour but it was also my way to steer towards more serious questions, like does he have any genetic health conditions.’

For Kam, who is in a long-term relationship, contacting Sabrina was about more than being a sperm donor: ‘I adore children. The desire to have my own has always been with me. Because of my sexuality I thought it might never happen. The urge grew stronger in my thirties until one day I researched options. When I met Sabrina I was very nervous. This was my chance to fulfil my dreams.’

It took Sabrina six years to conceive through IVF. By then she had met Kirsty Slack, 37, who is now her romantic partner. Sabrina and Kirsty live together and are Zaide’s primary carers. Kam visits weekly, which will increase as Zaide gets older.

Kam and Sabrina are one of the growing number of couples in so-called ‘co-parenting’ relationships – biological parents who have a close but platonic relationship and both contribute to child-rearing . Co-parenting isn’t just for the gay community. Straight men and women are choosing to put romance aside in the name of reproduction.

Catherine, 41, met Steve, 39, on the website co-parentmatch.com. He is gay and she has been single for two years. He lives in London for his job as an analyst but will join Catherine in Swansea if and when he gets her pregnant, through artificial insemination (AI).

Source: Helen Croydon 31.07.11 The Telegraph

Read more: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/family/8659494/Meet-the-co-parents-friends-not-lovers.html

Donation Review Decisions from HFEA

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The UK’s fertility regulator, the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority (HFEA), has made its first set of decisions following the outcome of its recent consultation on sperm and egg donation, known as the Donation Review. Having analysed responses to the Donation Review, HFEA staff asked HFEA members to approve a series of recommendations at a meeting on 13 July. All of these recommendations were ultimately approved, but in several instances the decision had to be put to a vote and there was a dissenting minority. Additionally, the wording of some of the recommendations was amended during the course of the discussion.

The most straightforward decision made by the HFEA was that the maximum number of families which a sperm or egg donor is permitted to create should not be changed, and that the current maximum limit of 10 should remain. The HFEA also resolved to take steps to encourage clinics to make optimum use of the donor sperm already available, because there is currently a disparity between the maximum number of families that that an individual donor is permitted to create and the number of families that are actually being created from the sperm of individual donors. (The precise size of and reasons for this disparity are disputed).

The HFEA also decided to issue guidance stating that sperm and eggs should not be mixed if they come from very close genetic relatives (for example, brother and sister or father and daughter). If such mixing took place in vitro then this would not technically fall afoul of the UK’s legal prohibition on incest. Such mixing is never known to have occurred, but the HFEA decided it was appropriate to issue specific guidance on the matter at this time.

The mixing of sperm and eggs of close relatives is a very different matter from the replacement of someone’s sperm or eggs with sperm or eggs donated by a close relative (for instance, a man’s wife being fertilised with his brother’s sperm, or a woman becoming pregnant with a child conceived using an egg donated by the woman’s mother). It was decided that this sort of replacement of sperm or eggs within families should remain permitted, but that ‘best practice’ in this area should be formulated by the HFEA, in collaboration with professionals and interest groups. It was also decided that clinics should be required to submit data about this sort of donation to the HFEA, so that its prevalence can be established.

Finally, the HFEA considered whether donors should be permitted to place conditions on the use of their sperm and eggs, and if so, then what sorts of conditionality should be permitted. For example, should a sperm donor be permitted to specify that their sperm cannot be used (or alternatively, can only be used) to treat a lesbian, or a single woman, or a woman of a particular ethnicity, religion or age? This is an area where two different parts of UK law (fertility legislation and equalities legislation) are potentially in conflict with one another, and therefore it poses a difficult problem for the HFEA.

The HFEA eventually decided to permit the placing of conditions, but to issue guidance qualifying this permission according to different contexts. This decision was made despite vocal dissension from some members, who wanted the placing of conditions to be prohibited apart from in exceptional circumstances.

The HFEA will make a further set of decisions based on the outcome of the Donation Review later this year. This next set of decisions will concern how much and what sort of compensation (financial and otherwise) sperm and egg donors should be permitted to receive for their donation.


Source: http://www.bionews.org.uk/page_102199.asp

Maternal age related to down syndrome


The maternal age (the age of a woman when she becomes pregnant) is the only clear risk factor to be identified as increasing the risk of having a baby with Down’s syndrome.

The risks of having a pregnancy that is affected by Down’s syndrome increases as a woman gets older. For example, a woman who is:

  • 15-29 years of age has a risk of 1 in 1,500
  • 30-34 years of age has a risk of 1 in 800
  • 35-39 years of age has a risk of 1 in 385
  • 40-44 years of age has a risk of 1 in 106
  • 45 years of age has a risk of 1 in 30

However, approximately 80% of babies with Down’s syndrome are born to mothers who are under 35 years of age. This is due to the fact that women under 35 make up the majority of the child-bearing population.


Call for Soldiers to Freeze Sperm

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A soldier who was maimed serving in Afghanistan has called on the Ministry of Defence to pay for soldiers to freeze their sperm before combat duty.

Sgt Rick Clement, from Blackpool, who was married at the weekend, lost both of his legs in a roadside bomb.

Because of his injuries he and his wife Leanne will never be able to conceive a baby.

The Ministry of Defence said it was up to commanding officers to inform soldiers of sperm preservation.

Mr Clement said the MoD was now informing soldiers about sperm freezing before they embarked on a tour of duty to a combat zone.

He added: “Although they are not going to pay for it as yet, at least the guys who go over there will have that choice that I and others didn’t have before.”

Officers’ duty

An MoD statement said it did not fund “pre-deployment fertility preservation”.

It also stated that officers are responsible for making service personnel aware of the issue of fertility preservation at the earliest opportunity “as they may wish to discuss the issue with their spouses or partners”.

The MoD added: “However, for those service personnel injured on operations, procedures to preserve sexual and reproductive function have been developed and are available.

“Specifically, when deemed appropriate, access to NHS-funded ‘sperm harvesting’ and storage is offered and this process will continue to be funded by the MOD.”

Source: BBC.co.uk 9th June 2011